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Relationships, Personal Development, Leadership, Private Corporate Culture… ultimately require Clarity, Awareness and Responsibility. These specific principles can be learned and heightened through insights and guidance derived from the right combination of experience and continued education.
Peter’s focus is to share proven principles honed through a unique perspective pertaining to the area of your life you are looking to improve. It takes self-growth to be intentional in the ways you think about, approach, and transform yourself to be the person you need to be, to be the best, most Excellent version of YOU.
Peter Hobler brings a fresh perspective based on personal experience and training to inspire and impact individuals seeking breakthroughs in their relationships, personal life, career, and business leadership. He is the driving force behind The Ex-Factor brand, developer of The 7 Principles of COURAGE, architect of The Vicious Cycle of Subconscious Fear, the author of two books to date, Split Harmony: Turn The Ex-Factor From Chaos To Compassion and COURAGE To Find The FIRE Within: Invest In Yourself To Discover Your Passion, a Personal Development Coach, and keynote speaker.
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There is so much pain that often comes with the experience of going through separation and divorce. Emotions are heightened and extreme reactionary behavior tends to become the norm.
You feel the pain. Your ex feels the pain. Your children certainly feel the pain.
Children are caught in the middle. They have absolutely no say in what is going on or in how the two of you are handling things and interacting with one another. They can feel guilty, unloved, confused, depressed, afraid…
During the duress of divorce, parents’ heated, reactive, accusatory, and threatening words and behavior can lead to lifelong psychological and emotional trauma for children.
As a parent, your words, choices, behavior, especially your anger fueled reactions, and the consequences of each, impact, affect, and teach your children by example.
Split Harmony shares insights and guidance based on The EX-Factor Principles. Applying and living the concepts of Forgiveness, Clarity, Awareness, and Responsibility, you can create a shift from a divorce environment of chaos to a more compassionate and harmonious split environment for the sake of your kids.
“I met Peter after losing my father. Peter has had a significant influence in my personal life and for my personal family dynamics. His heartfelt attention, guidance, and insights have deeply impacted my own personal development leading to my having more self-confidence and a more insightful understanding for how to be self-empowered in all areas of my life. Thanks to Peter, my marriage and my approach to fatherhood have completely changed in ways I never knew possible.
~ Jordan Zabel, project manager
COURAGE To Find The FIRE Within: Invest In Yourself To Discover Your Passion
Does work leave you feeling unfulfilled at the end of each day?
Are you feeling stuck or simply unsure about how to start changing your life?
Are you frustrated because you’re not living anything close to your dreams?
How do you start living life with EX-cellence?
It takes COURAGE to change your life. The Principles of COURAGE provide a step-by-step road map to discover your passion and utilize your potential so you can Live With EX-cellence.
Clarity of Destination
Origin of Inspiration
Unrealized Potential
Responsibility
Awareness
Gratitude
Excellence
“Courage to Find the Fire Within is an inspiring and practical guide to overcoming the limiting beliefs and fears that hold us back from stepping into the fullness of our human potential. Get out your journal and get to work – your best life awaits you!”
~ Virginia Muzguiz, Managing Partner, Gateway Referral Institute
Creating A Harmonious Split Master Course
Feeling caught up in the roller coaster of anger, angst, and anxiety of divorce?
How much stress is the situation causing you? Your children?
Unsure about what you can do to change things, especially for the sake of your kids?
Pains of Divorce
° Loss of sense of security
° Financial worries
° Loss of sense of family
° Anger
° Frustration
° Regret
° Anxiety
° Reactiveness
° Concern for Your Children
° Rejection
° Disrespect
° Constant Conflict
° Dishonesty
° Infidelity
° Verbal Abuse
° Loneliness
° Bitterness
° Etc…
THE CREATING A HARMONIOUS SPLIT MASTER COURSE HELPS YOU OVERCOME THE MOST DIFFICULT PARTS OF SEPARATION FOR YOU AND YOUR KIDS.
The type of relationship you have with your ex is actually a choice. Consider the potential emotional and psychological impact on your kids from how you move forward.
Think about what your choice is going to be… Amicable co-parenting or a hostile, non-communications based relationship?
Able to compromise or constant resistance, frustration, and fighting? Well thought out actions having a positive impact or reactionary behavior fueled by anger, stress, and frustration planting seeds for emotional and psychological trauma for your children?
You and your ex/ex-to-be obviously look at things through diverse life lenses. When it comes to your kids, wouldn’t it be worth being able to shift your perspective in a way that leads to creating and nurturing a harmonious split to minimize anxiety, stress, anger, resentment, doubt, and guilt?
This is what the Creating A Harmonious Split Master Course is all about.
The EX-Factor process provides a unique framework for creating a more peaceful split environment having a more positive impact for your kids, and for you.
THIS COURSE WILL HELP YOU:
• Form the foundation to let go of anger and angst for the sake of your kids
• Get Clarity for what you really want for your kids
• Understand how to make conscious choices to shift the dynamics with your ex and positively change the tone of the “new” version of your relationship
• Avoid the snowballing effects of unmanaged anger and how to create a shift to calmness
• Reduce stress & anxiety
• Avoid causing life-long trauma that children of divorce often endure
• And more…
Creating A Harmonious Split Master Course Overview
The Modules
“Be Intentional. Live With Excellence.”
1. FORGIVENESS
EX-onerate
· The main person your anger, angst, and anxiety impacts is you.
· Forms the foundation to start to let go of anger, regret, resentment, angst, and more…
· Allows the negative energy between the two of you to shift (for the sake of your kids).
· Results: You will feel less stressed, anxious, and angry and be less reactive and able to make more positively impacting choices.
2. CLARITY
EX-amine
· Your current relationship situation and the impact it’s having on your kids.
· The potential effects down the road for your kids if things do NOT change?
· What is driving your behavior…
· Results: Gain Clarity for what you really want for your kids so you can be more intentionally conscious with your choices.
EX-cavate
· How have you gotten to where you are?
· What choices have you made that have contributed to where you are?
· What prior experiences/conditioning in your life contributes to how you make stressful decisions/react?
· Results: Learn how to develop a mindset more oriented to not taking things personally and to focusing on solutions.
3. AWARENESS
EX-plore
· Reflect on the ripple effect of your words, choices, actions, reactions, and the consequences of each (the impact of your behavior on others).
· Different possibilities and perspectives for creating what you really want for your kids and yourself.
· How could things change if you were able to let go of a few things that typically upset you…
· Results: Figure out how to create a more Harmonious Split Family Environment for the sake of your kids.
EX-change
· Replace your anger, frustration, disdain, and angst with a more empowering way of thinking and feeling to support creating a more harmonious and positive environment for the sake of your kids.
· Your focusing on what you do NOT want for you and your kids for the ability to focus on what you DO want!
· Unreasonable reactiveness with calm.
· Results: Letting go of anger leads to being in control of yourself and of interactions.
Note: As Albert Einstein said, the definition of insanity is:
“Doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results”.
4. RESPONSIBILITY
EX-ecute
· STOP blaming, shaming, and excuse-making.
· Be Responsible for your words, choices, actions, reactions, and the consequences of each… Integrity begins with the person in the mirror.
· Take inspired, committed, consistent ACTION to live with Forgiveness, Clarity, Awareness, and Personal Responsibility to create more positive outcomes for your kids, yourself, and the entire former family unit. (This is called follow-through).
· Results: Taking conscious ACTION leads to different outcomes compared to when you are being reactive.
EX-cellence
· Just because the situation between you and your former spouse has changed, why wouldn’t you still be the best version of you?
· Reflect on what it means to Be Your Best!
· Consciously set your Intentions and Intentionally strive to Be Your BEST…
· Results: Change your energy and get more of what you really want for your kids.
The energy you emanate and the domino effect it creates, likewise attract similar energy. Envision the difference you can make for your kids, for yourself, and beyond when you shift the energy you are putting into your divorce scenario.